When Surrogacy Becomes Your Path: One Intended Mother’s Story
For many intended parents, surrogacy isn’t where the fertility journey begins. It becomes the path forward after plans change, treatments don’t work as hoped, or a diagnosis forces you to imagine parenthood differently.
In this episode of Your Fertility Story, SMARTPath Fertility International founder Maria Feekes speaks with Adesola, an intended mother from the United Kingdom preparing for an international surrogacy journey in Mexico.
Adesola shares the deeply personal road that brought her here, from an unexpected diagnosis and the realization that she would not be able to carry a pregnancy herself to accepting egg donation and ultimately choosing surrogacy.
The Part of the Surrogacy Journey That Happens Before Embryo Transfer
Much of what we hear about surrogacy focuses on matching, embryo transfer,
pregnancy, and birth. But Adesola’s story is about something that happens before all of that.
It’s about changing expectations.
She speaks candidly about grief, uncertainty, self-worth, and learning to separate the ability to become a mother from the ability to carry a pregnancy or have a biological connection to her child.
Her journey eventually led her to egg donation and surrogacy, but accepting that new path took time.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode
Maria and Adesola discuss:
Receiving a diagnosis of premature ovarian failure and how it changed the future she had imagined.
Coming to terms with infertility and the emotions that accompany decisions you never expected to make.
Choosing egg donation and reconsidering what a biological connection means to parenthood.
Why surrogacy became the right path for building her family.
Creating a UK-to-Mexico surrogacy journey, including choosing an egg donor and navigating the logistics of international fertility treatment.
Finding self-worth beyond fertility and biology and letting go of the judgment intended parents can sometimes place on themselves.
Learning patience and trust as she prepares for the next major milestone: embryo transfer.
A Surrogacy Story That Is Still Being Written
What makes Adesola’s conversation especially meaningful is that she isn’t telling her story from the finish line.
At the time of this conversation, her embryo transfer hasn’t happened yet.
She is still living the uncertainty, anticipation, and hope that come with waiting for the next step.
For intended parents who are in that same space, her story is a reminder that a fertility journey doesn’t have to follow the path you originally imagined to still lead toward the family you hope to build.
Watch or Listen to Adesola Tell Her Story
Some parts of a fertility journey are difficult to capture in a program guide or explain through medical terminology. Sometimes it helps simply to hear from someone who has faced those decisions herself.
When Surrogacy Becomes Your Path: Adesola’s Story
Maria Feekes with intended mother Adesola
Whether you are considering egg donation, exploring surrogacy in Mexico, or simply trying to come to terms with a fertility journey that looks different from the one you expected, Adesola’s conversation offers an honest perspective from someone who is living it right now.
Considering international surrogacy? SMARTPath Fertility International supports intended parents throughout the family-building journey, from donor and surrogate matching to medical coordination, legal arrangements, and preparation for embryo transfer.
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